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my brother had a kidney transplant and
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went through a tough time
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i told him about a youtube channel
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explaining the process of people that
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are new and scared
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how can i motivate him to do it um well
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he doesn't want to do it
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like you told him about it but he
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doesn't want to go look at it so
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family is one of the hardest things
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because you've learned a lot you've
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grown a lot and
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as you've learned and grown the natural
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thing is to help the people around you
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you want to serve you want to help
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and he's very shy
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yeah and so that's one of the hardest
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things is that you want to help your
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family
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but they don't necessarily uh want to
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listen
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they're scared they have insecurities
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they've got their own issues that
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they're dealing with
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so the best thing you can try to do is
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meet them where they're at you know so
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if he's very shy
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and scared of things don't tell him to
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go do something that he's very scared of
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not yet he's not ready for it baby steps
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so what's the baby step equivalent for
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him
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and it's supporting him part of the
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problem is he doesn't want to let you
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down and he doesn't want to feel judged
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like he doesn't need that right now he
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doesn't need to feel judged even though
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you're not
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right even though you love him but it's
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easy for it to come across as judgment
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and another
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failure on his part so he doesn't want
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that so it's better to not to do
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anything than to potentially let you
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down
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because right now with everything he's
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got going on he doesn't need added
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stress to his life
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so what you're looking for is openings
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uh one that you support him and you love
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him no matter what and
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and whether he does it or not if all you
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are doing is every time you see him
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pushing for him to go do this thing
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guess what he's gonna start avoiding you
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he doesn't want to see you anymore
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because now you're a source of stress
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and he doesn't need any more stress in
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his life
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right
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so you're supporting him you're loving
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him you're understanding of him
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and then you're looking for openings
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you're looking for windows specific
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windows
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non-judgmental windows to give him
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the strength and confidence to go do the
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thing that you think is best for him
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you're coming in too hot look think
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about who you used to be
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you didn't used to be like this so think
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of who you used to be
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because that's probably who he is so you
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got to meet him where he's at

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