"burden" of being "attractive" follow up, and why objectifying can be healthy...
17So basically what I try to say in this video is that I think there are worse things then people hitting on you. And although there are bad things that can happen because of being assumed to be "attractive" at least there is a positive side to it, that others will not experience. And we should not judge others before knowing them. Obviously bad things happen, and trust me I know. Ive had people talk shit to me while im in the hospital, girls tell me they wont be my friend unless i have sex with me so they made stuff up. Tires popped on my car, people send me awful messages for no reason randomly I mean tons of bad stuff does happen. BUt again at least there is a positive side to this, that does not exist for others, who could only wish that someone would compliment them.
The second why I Think objectifying can actually be healthy because basically honestly if you have no desire to flirt, fuck whatever. That is a bad thing. I can tell you from someone who has experienced feeligns of basically just nothingness while being sick, there is like no emotions.. Not wanting to tell someone they are attractive and never feeling a desire to is not healthy and a sign something is wrong I think. I know when I feel more positive about myself, or maybe not as sick, or lets say horny. When im flirting with someone/you look a girl in the eye, or you both look each other in the guy. Thats a good feeling. And if you dont want to have those kinda feelings and feel a connection with another, thats a problem I think.
I just think a real "burden" is not someone wanting to compliment you. A real burden is someone assuming the worst about you, or wanting a reason to be mean to you. Hopefully that makes sense.
link to the first video
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WX4C6r_n1cc