LEADERBOARD - Masterclass - 021 - How to Be Authentic in Your Interactions
0THEME: Communication
LESSON: How to Be Authentic in Your Interactions
If I'm not willing to own my fears and emotions, the people around me must continue to accept them on my behalf without any real acknowledgement. While at times it's a tough pill to swallow, the more I accept the above to be true, the more harmony and joy fills our world.
Without great care, we burden our lives with our own unfinished business.
Here are some things we can do to shine a light on personal problems and begin the process of solving those unspoken internal issues.
1. Live Consciously.
If we pay attention, we find the wounds that need healing. Whenever we get "triggered" we've stumbled on something that needs healing. I know that can be hard to accept, but if your buttons are getting pushed, they're YOUR buttons. If you didn't have a button there, you could respond calmly.
2. Use Your Inner Pause Button.
Even if you're already well down the wrong path, STOP. Take a deep breath and hit the pause button. Remind yourself of what's about to happen unless you choose another course. Walk out of the room. Don't be embarrassed; you're modelling good anger management. You never win anything if you lose self-control.
3. Acknowledge The Emotions.
You can heal your emotional triggers by noticing the sensations they produce in your body but not taking action based on them. That doesn't mean thinking about what happened and getting all tangled up in a complex or false story line. When you welcome what you're feeling but resist the urge to act on it, while holding yourself with compassion, the emotions begin to dissipate.
Do not forget:
Therapy and coaching are designed to help you heal old issues and move forward more happily in your life. There is no shame in asking for help. The shame would be in reneging on your responsibility as an adult by projecting your own issues on others. If you think you need help, please don't wait.
Give yourself the support you need.
No matter how much we work on ourselves, we'll never be perfect.
That's okay.
We're all human ... we can all improve.
Today's Key Words & Phrases
Behalf + Joy + Unspoken + Triggered + Calmly + Embarrassed + Tangled + False + Dissipate + Reneging
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