One Narcissist's Intimate Relationships Decoded
1,691Here is how all my relationships go:
I meet a woman
We spend time together
I abuse her egregiously and sadistically, testing whether she can love me unconditionally the way a mother does and also discharging my misogyny
I cannot reciprocate love and I offer no commitment. This frustrates my partner and frustration transmogrifies into aggression.
She triangulates with other men to get me to love her and to retaliate for my soul-destroying and hate-suffused abuse.
The triangulation makes me feel unsafe, unloved, and disappointed in her.
Her triangulation renders her unfit to be my partner (she obviously failed to love me unconditionally, despite my unrelenting abuse).
I need to look elsewhere (to get rid of her).
But, at this stage, she is still mine.
Her triangulation makes me feel like I am losing control over her (narcissistic injury or mortification).
I choose the man most likely to misbehave - dysregulated or predatory or both.
I aggressively push them to be together.
This way I regain my sense of control (they are my puppets, merely enacting my script)
She cheats on me with the man I have chosen, thus degrading and trashing herself (her punishment for triangulating).
Her misconduct gives me the perfect pretext to get rid of her or to abandon her physically and/or emotionally, all the while preserving a sense of outraged moral superiority (she is the villain, a slut like all women, I am the victim)
I move on to the next woman
It starts all over again.
On a side note: I may hoover a woman who has caused me narcissistic injury - but never a woman who mortified me (humiliated me in public in front of my peers by flirting with or ostentatiously cheating with another man).