Relationship Dysfunction and BPD - Tendency for Dependency Part 2 of 2
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It is not uncommon for individuals with BPD to feel as though they need to be in a relationship to feel complete and whole, and to exist. Learning about this tendency for dependency and the related patterns can help you see yourself and your relationships differently. The goal of these videos is to help you re-conceptualize how you see yourself as a whole person, but also how you see who you are in your relationships. Wanting to be in a relationship is great, needing to be in one is frightening and triggering. Knowing your patterns and underlying forces can help you do your relationships differently, in an adaptive a healthy way.
Individuals with BPD have difficulty tolerating aloneness, as well as an intense fear of loss, abandonment, or rejection by significant others, and an urgent need for contact with significant others when stressed or distressed, accompanied sometimes by highly submissive, subservient behavior. This tends to lead to trouble.
The final 3 interpersonal patterns covered in this video are:
4) Anxiety about autonomy /independence BPD folks may hold a core belief of incompetence, that they lack faith in their ability to achieve or to successfully tackle tasks on their own. This leads to conflicts about their independence, because they do not feel they can achieve on their own, they resort to finding others who can take care for them, by doing this they forfeit wishes and attempts for autonomy and independence.
5) Dependent-depressive factor is when you have Feelings of depression conflicted with autonomy, as individual with BPD are reported to be depressed as a consequence of their fear of losing a significant other because they do not believe they can survive on their own.
6) Successful interactions is the desire to not be irresponsible (i.e., to take one’s responsibilities), acceptance of others, and feelings of pride and confidence.
Daniel J. Fox, Ph.D., is a licensed psychologist in Texas, international speaker, and award winning author. He has been specializing in the treatment and assessment of individuals with personality disorders for over 15 years in the state and federal prison system, universities, and in private practice. His specialty areas include personality disorders, ethics, burnout prevention, and emotional intelligence.
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Citation:
Drapeau, Martin & Perry, John & Körner, Annett. (2012). Interpersonal Patterns in Borderline Personality Disorder. Journal of Personality Disorders, 26: 583-92.