NAVIGATING TOXIC FAMILY DYNAMICS WITH AN EMOTIONALLY UNAVAILABLE PARENT
167Toxic family dynamics often begins with a toxic and dysfunctional parent. \nIt isn't always the fault of the parent that the child or children struggle in life.
\nIt is sometimes biology and genes mixed with environment. \n\nBut in the families where the parent is to blame for the toxicity of the family dynamic, the controlling nature of the parent-child relationship, the loss of trust, and the loss of peace, parents are to blame. \n\nWe often don't want to blame anyone. In fact, even our research falls short of holding some parents accountable for the very important role they play.\n\nIn this live chat, I discuss the psychology of emotionally unavailable parents and how they may have affected you.\n--------------------------------------------------------------------\n#trauma #tamarahilllpc #toxicfamily
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DISCUSSED IN THIS CHAT:
0:00 Intro
2:45 emotionally detached vs emotionally unavailable
7:00 emotionally detached parents need a lot of help
8:32 voids are reinforced by these parents
12:44 the relationship is destable and destabilizing
13:24 Bowlby (parent-child relationship)
22:06 parents are childish and immature
24:38 Reactive Attachment
29:11 SIGNS OF EMOTIONALLY UNAVAILABLE PARENTS
41:08 WHAT THE RESEARCH SAYS IN SOME CASES
1:06:00 HOW THIS IMPACTS YOU
*discussion in-between content
*Re-parenting yourself live chat:
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Mentioned In The Live Chat (research & further information):
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2. O'Reilly CA, Hall N. Grandiose narcissists and decision making: Impulsive, overconfident, and skeptical of experts-but seldom in doubt. Pers Individ Dif. 2021 Jan 1;168:110280. doi: 10.1016/j.paid.2020.110280. Epub 2020 Aug 14. PMID: 32834287; PMCID: PMC7427600.
3. Saunders H, Kraus A, Barone L, Biringen Z. Emotional availability: theory, research, and intervention. Front Psychol. 2015 Jul 28;6:1069. doi: 10.3389/fpsyg.2015.01069. PMID: 26283996; PMCID: PMC4516809.
4. Clark ELM, Jiao Y, Sandoval K, Biringen Z. Neurobiological Implications of Parent-Child Emotional Availability: A Review. Brain Sci. 2021 Jul 30;11(8):1016. doi: 10.3390/brainsci11081016. PMID: 34439635; PMCID: PMC8391119.
5. Ruffalo ML. The great paradox of borderline personality disorder. Psychology Today. Updated February 9, 2024. Accessed March 18, 2024. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/from-freud-to-fluoxetine/202402/the-great-paradox-of-borderline-personality-disorder
6. Gottman, J. M. (1993). The roles of conflict engagement, escalation, and avoidance in marital interaction: A longitudinal view of five types of couples. Journal of Consulting and Clinical Psychology, 61(1), 6–15. https://doi.org/10.1037/0022-006X.61.1.6
7. Rosen C, Harrow M, Humpston C, Tong L, Jobe TH, Harrow H. 'An experience of meaning': A 20-year prospective analysis of delusional realities in schizophrenia and affective psychoses. Front Psychiatry. 2022 Aug 4;13:940124. doi: 10.3389/fpsyt.2022.940124. PMID: 35990079; PMCID: PMC9388349.
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