WHEN IT'S THEM, NOT YOU: NAVIGATING TOXIC FAMILY & RELATIONSHIP DYNAMICS
260Toxic family dynamics can seep into many areas of your adult life. \nRelationships are often the hardest. \n\nBut what if I told you that the problem isn't you, it's them?!\n\nIt's a really hard place to be in when you cannot make a toxic family relationship dynamic or another important relationship dynamic work because of the years of complex dynamics at play. \n\nDeflection, deception, pathological lying, manipulation, triangulation, emotional distancing, splitting, mind-games, harsh judgments, overly high expectations of you, and dichotomous thinking can all impact you negatively over time. \n\nThe toxic family dynamic or the toxic relationship dynamic can lead to many ups and downs. \n\nIn this live chat, I discuss the psychology of deception and control.\n---------------------------------------------------------------\n#trauma #tamarahilllpc #toxicfamily
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DISCUSSED IN THIS CHAT:
0:00 Intro
2:40 Dichotomous thinking (black/white thinking)
4:40 Splitting
8:15 "ghosting"
8:50 Double-bind communication (step-by-step example)
12:05 EXAMPLE of double-bind communication
29:18 COMMON SIGNS AND BEHAVIORS
29:39 PERSONALITY PATHOLOGY AND RESEARCH
54:51 SIGNS SOMETHING IS OFF
*discussion in-between content
25:26 Attachment video with CBT Therapist James Husband:
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Mentioned In The Live Chat (research & further information):
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2. O'Reilly CA, Hall N. Grandiose narcissists and decision making: Impulsive, overconfident, and skeptical of experts-but seldom in doubt. Pers Individ Dif. 2021 Jan 1;168:110280. doi: 10.1016/j.paid.2020.110280. Epub 2020 Aug 14. PMID: 32834287; PMCID: PMC7427600.
3. Caligor, E., Levy, K. N., & Yeomans, F. E. (2015). Narcissistic Personality Disorder: Diagnostic and Clinical Challenges. American Journal of Psychiatry, 172(5), 415–422. https://doi.org/10.1176/appi.ajp.2014.14060723
4. Bühler, J. L., Orth, U., Bleidorn, W., Weber, E., Kretzschmar, A., Scheling, L., & Hopwood, C. J. (2024). Life Events and Personality Change: A Systematic Review and Meta-Analysis. European Journal of Personality, 38(3), 544-568. https://doi.org/10.1177/08902070231190219
5. Ruffalo ML. The great paradox of borderline personality disorder. Psychology Today. Updated February 9, 2024. Accessed March 18, 2024. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/from-freud-to-fluoxetine/202402/the-great-paradox-of-borderline-personality-disorder
6. Gottman, J. M. (1993). The roles of conflict engagement, escalation, and avoidance in marital interaction: A longitudinal view of five types of couples. Journal of Consulting and Clinical Psychology, 61(1), 6–15. https://doi.org/10.1037/0022-006X.61.1.6
7. Rosen C, Harrow M, Humpston C, Tong L, Jobe TH, Harrow H. 'An experience of meaning': A 20-year prospective analysis of delusional realities in schizophrenia and affective psychoses. Front Psychiatry. 2022 Aug 4;13:940124. doi: 10.3389/fpsyt.2022.940124. PMID: 35990079; PMCID: PMC9388349.
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