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This is a replay from January 24, 2023

Perfectionism - The Perfect Way to Never Measure Up - OM School Live

In this weeke's episode of OM School Live we take up a subject that has caused many, many people a lot of misery and unnecessary failure.
PERFECTIONISM!

Perfectionism is a direct result of not being "good enough" as a child.

Early on we get this notion planted in us that If only I was better then:
Mommy and/or Daddy will really love/approve of me
I will get all my needs met
Daddy will stop yelling, drinking, pay attention to me

Then later that turns into:
The boss will approve of me
I'll get the man or woman of my dreams
I'll be a success
People will like me

There is this deep, unconscious story running that, if I can just be good enough (aka perfect) then I will be worthy of life's goodies.

Masking a deep sense of unworthiness and shame, we set impossibly high standards, that we can't possibly achIEve. That serves to keep up "safe" by keeping us waiting in the wings, until our gift to contribute measures up to this unreachable standard.

But there is a way out of this... and it is not by becoming any better than you already are.