10 HIDDEN SIGNS Your TOXIC RELATIONSHIP AND Family Dynamic is Hurting You
189Sometimes after repeated experiences of loss, grief, and mistreatment you can develop something known as counter-dependency.
A fear of becoming emotionally dependent on someone else can wreck havoc on any potential healthy relationship you could have.
In this experience, you may also find yourself suffering from a series of existential challenges you may not immediately identify.
In this live chat, I discuss the psychology of counter-dependency and existential challenges.
***Janae and Barry Weinhold book: https://www.amazon.com/Flight-Intimacy-Relationship-Counter-dependence-Co-dependency/dp/1577316053
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DISCUSSED IN THIS CHAT:
0:00 Intro
Counter dependency/maladaptive dependency
Existential anxiety
Existential crisis
Existential discomfort
Existential guilt
Fear phenomenon
37:49 COMMON ISSUES WITHIN THE SELF
46:20 Counter dependency stages/traits
108:15 IMPACT ON YOUR LONGTERM FUNCTIONING
*discussion in-between content
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Mentioned In The Live Chat (research & further information):
1. Murphy, T. F. (2025, February 8). Understanding Counter-Dependency: The Fear of Vulnerability. Psychology Fanatic. https://psychologyfanatic.com/counter-dependency/
2. Gregory, J. (2022). Counter-narratives: dependency, culture, and the myth of worklessness. Social Housing, Wellbeing and Welfare, 70–84. https://doi.org/10.1332/policypress/9781447347910.003.0004
3. Zitek, E. M., & Jordan, A. H. (2017). Psychological Entitlement Predicts Failure to Follow Instructions. Social Psychological and Personality Science, 10(2), 172-180. https://doi.org/10.1177/1948550617729885 (Original work published 2019)
4. Steindl C, Jonas E, Sittenthaler S, Traut-Mattausch E, Greenberg J. Understanding Psychological Reactance: New Developments and Findings. Z Psychol. 2015;223(4):205-214. doi: 10.1027/2151-2604/a000222. PMID: 27453805; PMCID: PMC4675534.
5. Steindl C, Jonas E, Sittenthaler S, Traut-Mattausch E, Greenberg J. Understanding Psychological Reactance: New Developments and Findings. Z Psychol. 2015;223(4):205-214. doi: 10.1027/2151-2604/a000222. PMID: 27453805; PMCID: PMC4675534.
6. Murphy, T. F. (2025, February 8). Understanding Counter-Dependency: The Fear of Vulnerability. Psychology Fanatic. https://psychologyfanatic.com/counter-dependency/
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*Videos are provided for exploration and educational purposes only and does not constitute clinical suggestions or consultation for individual cases.
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